I have been through two,
So I guess that makes me an “ex-pert,” right? Sure…
Should I be proud of that fact?
Absolutely Yes.
As should you.
Divorces are hard. Even the easy ones. My latest was relatively easy, yet still ripped my heart out and smashed it around a bit, even when we had both moved on and apart. It was a reminder that I suck at love. Or love sucks at me.
As mentioned, I have been through two divorces at this point, and don’t intend to go through any more. But we never intend for these things, do we? I spend a lot of my time lately looking at and working on the bigger picture. For me, it’s lofty ideas and big world-rocking things. But I am grounded by my real-life experiences, especially that hit home and are often pushed under the rug in public conversation.
Divorce. It sucks. That’s all anyone really wants to say about it. But what about those of us who actually go through it? We aren’t all old dried up spinsters. We are defunct because of the experience. If we haven’t paired up in the process or soon after, we aren’t untouchable, unviable candidates for love and lust. We are still here. And no one has really told us how to come back. We’ve had to find it out on our own.
So I have taken on the task of writing a guide. It’s not just any guide. It’s a real recovery guide. It’s made for you and me, to scribble and commiserate, and just get through and move on. I’m so tired of the sympathy, the sad looks, the hands off, the silence when someone doesn’t know what to do with me post-divorce. I’m here and I’m ready. Let’s bounce out of this mess.